February 2, 2017 support

“At any moment, you have a choice, that either leads you closer to your spirit or further away from it.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh When I was a kid, I wanted to be an Olympic figure skater. Or an artist for Disney. Or maybe a musician. I wanted to be a songwriter and choreographer. I made up roller skating routines in the driveway to Tiffany and Paula Abdul. (It was most excellent.) I filled notebooks upon notebooks with illustrations. And if you were to ask me to describe myself, I might have said, “happy.” Or I would have chattered on about…

February 2, 2017 support

“Don’t let people pull you into their storm. Pull them into your peace.” ~Kimberly Jones I was finally in a solid place when I met my now-ex-boyfriend earlier this year. I had created some healthy habits for myself and was fully recovered from the eating disorder that had ruled my life for eight years prior. Things had turned around completely for me, as now I was getting my first novel published and had a flourishing greeting card line. When I first met my ex, who I’ll call Alex, it was love at first sight. I was completely infatuated with this…

February 2, 2017 support

“I acknowledge my own worth. My confidence is growing.” ~Unknown Sometimes I feel like a spider whose web is repeatedly torn down. I plan something and start taking action. Then life happens, and setbacks threaten to sap my energy and enthusiasm. Whenever I take on too much, I can feel as if I’m juggling a million balls. And doing it badly. You’ve probably seen T-shirts saying, “Things are a bit crazy around here.” That could easily describe me when I allow myself to become overloaded. It’s easy to feel stressed and to slip into harsh self-criticism. Especially when I hold…

February 2, 2017 support

  Tomorrow I turn 33! So many people moan about getting older (and I’ve been known to do so on occasion…), but the other day I had this thought: There’s no greater gift than another birthday. It’s a tad cheesy, yes, but it’s so true. What could be better than being given an opportunity to be here, to keep living, to experience the highs and lows of life, the unexpected twists and the comforting consistencies? There have been many times, for many reasons, that I wasn’t certain I would celebrate another birthday and so, while I’m not always this obsessively grateful…

February 2, 2017 support

When you think of mindfulness, your wardrobe probably isn’t the first thing that comes to mind, but your fashion choices (even if you don’t think your attire falls in the “fashion” category) impact your life more than you might realize. Like it or not, what you wear influences how others see you and how you feel about yourself. “Enclothed cognition” is the scientific definition for how your style and clothing choices reflect and affect your mood, health, and confidence. And, of course, those things — mood, health, confidence — greatly influence how you see the world and how you live your life. Fashion has always been…

February 2, 2017 support

We all want to live good lives, but what does a “good life” actually mean? It’s a hard concept to nail down, since we all have different values and goals. What one person might consider a great existence — a high-powered job living in bustling city, or a cozy life spent raising a handful of children, or a solitary existence spent writing in the mountains — others might think of as very unpleasant. What “good” means is relative, especially when it comes to creating a well-lived life. Still, I believe there are certain things we all need to have a good…

February 2, 2017 support

  It’s going to be a bit of a crazy week here in America, so I thought I’d direct my attention to what helps me most whenever I’m feeling anxious or stressed: gratitude. Seven years ago I wrote a list featuring 100 Things I Am Thankful For and, to this day, it’s still one of my most popular posts! This year I thought I’d revisit and update that list. I did this without looking at the list, and then I went back to see how many of them ended up being the same after all this time, which was kind of…

February 2, 2017 support

  Happy 2017! Over the past (almost) eight years of running this site, one thing has become glaringly obvious to me: it’s very difficult to stay positive and present if you don’t love who you are. This truth has become so vital to who I am and what this brand, Positively Present, stands for, and that’s why I’m making it a priority in 2017. Though I’m not big on New Year’s resolutions, the start of a new year is a pretty great time to reflect on the past year, re-evaluate where you are now, and redirect your energy to where you’d like go…

February 2, 2017 support

After declaring this the Year of Self-Love, I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about it — like, way more than I’ve ever done about any topic before. When you start looking for something (or, in some cases, the lack of something), you see it everywhere. That’s what’s been happening to me over the past few weeks. Self-love (or lack of it) is in everywhere, connected to everything. It impacts every single aspect of life in every single person, which is pretty crazy, as far as writing topics go. At times it can feel overwhelming, the idea of transforming (or trying to…

February 2, 2017 support

Did anyone else have an existential crisis, freak-the-hell-out meltdown last week or was it just me? It was sure a rough week for me, personally and professionally, and, though I wanted to curl up on the couch and escape the world with a book (really loving The Animators right now!), I knew this was a perfect time to put the words I write each week into practice. I knew I had the tools to figure out a way to make the most of things, even though I was feeling pretty helpless, so decided to give them a shot. Here’s what I did to cope this week….